While many believe it is more difficult for a man to win custody of his children, the truth is that courts want to see children in the custody of a parent who can provide for and care for him or her. While some courts might favor mothers, the law today is meant to be unbiased and to give fair consideration to both parents.
Fathers can obtain primary custody. There is no law that states that mothers should be given priority, and the changing state of society has influenced the need for fathers as primary caretakers. For example, today, many women work full-time jobs that are demanding and time consuming. If a father has a job that takes up less of his time, it may be more advantageous to place the child in the father's care primarily.
For fathers who wish to obtain primary custody, remember that there is more than just your time to consider. The court wants to see that you have a good relationship with your child as well. For example, if your wife is the one who always participated in school activities and took your child to after-school events, it may not be as easy to convince the court to give you primary custody. If, on the other hand, you were the one who took time to invest yourself in your child's activities, it may be easier to show that you deserve the kind of custody rights you want.
Another thing the court wants to know is that you're prepared to have your child in your home. When parents divorce, you both move into new homes or one of you may move into a new home. In that case, both homes need to have a place for your child. If you haven't taken time to set up a room for your child, this could influence the court's decision.
These are a few things to think about if you're planning to seek primary custody. Your child's health and happiness matters, and your attorney can help you show how vital it is that you're a large part of his or her life.