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Shoot for “good enough” when parenting after a divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 22, 2020 | Child Custody |

After a couple goes through a divorce, it is common for them to be concerned about the well-being of their children. It is sometimes said that children with parents who have divorced often get bad grades, experience mental health problems, go to jail and experience similar issues. Minnesota parents may wonder what they can do to help their children after a divorce.

Research shows that children of divorced parents can do just as well as children with parents who are not divorced. A big factor in helping the children is for the divorced parents to be civil with each other. When they can support each other as co-parents, treat each other with respect and encourage their children to spend equal time with each parent, this gives the children what they need to have the most success in life possible. Children also need to know that their parents love them no matter what changes happen in their lives.

After going through a divorce, it is common for a person to try to be the perfect parent. Instead of trying to be amazing or fantastic, it is usually better to aim for being “good enough.” When a child spends time with his or her parent, this is not the child’s vacation time. A parent should not try to buy their child’s love. A normal routine should be maintained, which includes respecting boundaries, following the rules and doing homework and chores.

No matter how hard an individual tries to co-parent with an ex-spouse, it may seem impossible to keep things civil. A parent might even be concerned that their children are in danger when they spend time with an ex-spouse. In this situation, a person may want to speak with an attorney. The attorney may be able to answer questions about child custody modification and seeking sole or legal custody of the children.