Honesty is the basis of a solid marriage. When either partner is unable to be fully honest, there is a chance that the marriage will weaken. This can eventually lead to a divorce. This is true even if the hidden points were from the past and especially if they involved trauma.
A person who’s recovering from a trauma in their life will likely need to have a strong support system. Events like abuse, the lose of a parent or child, the presence of a mental health disorder, or having to deal with substance abuse can have significant impacts on your life.
Being able to discuss past traumas with your spouse can help them to understand how they can help you. But, some people feel that they need to hide these events because of guilt or shame. Unfortunately, suppressing those events can lead to more than just marital issues. It can also cause medical problems like headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure and others.
One of the best ways to alleviate the strain on your marriage and your health is to discuss what happened. If it’s too difficult to start the conversation off with your spouse, consider discussing the matter with a trusted friend or family member.
If you’re already dealing with past traumas and your marriage crumbles, you’ll need to find a way to handle the emotions of everything. This might be intense, but it may help you to start your new single life off on the best foundation possible. Working through all your emotions may also be beneficial during the divorce process since unchecked emotions can make it hard to think clearly about the legal matters.