Stability can be very helpful for children during and after a divorce. It can help them adjust to this change in their life by keeping other things the same. This can be very reassuring and helps children mentally and emotionally.
But as a parent, how do you create this type of stability after the divorce? Here are a few tips to keep in mind.
Keep routines the same
As much as possible, try to create a parenting plan that keeps the children’s routines the same as they were when you and your ex were still married. This means keeping them in the same school, taking them to the same extracurricular activities, maintaining holiday traditions and things of this nature.
Be consistent
Even when it’s tough, be consistent and stick to your routines and schedules. Make the children’s activities a priority. If both you and your ex have the same mindset and put the kids first, then your children can see that you both still care for them and that life won’t change that much, even if their parents are divorced.
Get their input
Planning ahead is very important, as is being flexible and changing the schedule when necessary. To do all of this, you need to focus on communication. Ask the children about their preferences or desires. Ask them if there’s anything that stresses them out or frustrates them that you may be able to fix. Children’s input will largely depend on their age, of course, but giving them a voice is beneficial.
As you move toward divorce and focus on stability, take the time to look into all of your legal options and plan carefully for your family’s future.